You can be amazing
You can turn a phrase into a weapon or a drug~ Sara Bareilles “Brave”

I really dislike this word. It’s not the letter’s fault that they fit together so nicely. It’s the way people have come to use this word as a qualifier, and not always in a nice way.

You look lovely, but losing a few pounds would help.

You’re so smart, but you really don’t have a clue about people.

You’re so lucky, but I wish you would stop talking about things.

But, you don’t look sick.

But, you don’t look disabled.

But, you don’t look Autistic.

Get the idea? It sounds so negative to me. Like I’m “less than” because I don’t meet whatever expectation you have. Or that I should improve myself in order to be considered “good enough.” I’m not against improvement. I would just like to know why it is so important to people that they feel the need to comment on my shortcomings….constantly.

Your challenge: Eliminate “but” from your vocabulary or at least reserve it for a time when you won’t be perceived as judging someone. Think about your words and the power you hold.